I admit, I had not been modeling self-love for her in conscious ways.
She wasn't imitating my language.
I had not been including myself on the list of people that I love.
I started to wonder: when she will start abandoning her self?
Buying into the illusion that she isn't enough, or isn't worthy of love from others were herself?
Is this inevitable?
What can I do, think, say or...
When I believe my child is vindictive, I act in vindictive ways.
I become tense, angry, prone to punishment, blame and aggression.
I see how my reactivity (and my own vindictive behavior) decreases compassion and trust and peace in my relationship.
What I want to foster is understanding, forgiveness, calm listening and the ability to be angry without hurting another.