I admit, I had not been modeling self-love for her in conscious ways.
She wasn't imitating my language.
I had not been including myself on the list of people that I love.
I started to wonder: when she will start abandoning her self?
Buying into the illusion that she isn't enough, or isn't worthy of love from others were herself?
Is this inevitable?
What can I do, think, say or...
With my kids, I began intentionally replacing my knee jerk response "WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT?!" with "what were you needing?"
It changed the way the next few minutes unfolded.
And over time it's helped to build long lasting trust in our relationship.
What would happen if even one generation were raised with respect?
Trusting that their viewpoint, their experience matters?
That their cries will be heard?
That they will be held, and supported in finding solutions?
Ditch the fear.
They will learn.
Shaming, blaming or withdrawing from them won't accelerate their learning.
It won't teach them what you want them to learn.
It will teach them that your love is conditional.
Drop the idea that discipline and punishment are interchangeable.
Discipline is rooted in guidance.
Punishment is motivated by revenge.
Punishment teaches them that they can't te...